3 Things You should Do To BOOST Your Confidence Today
3 Things You should Do To BOOST Your Confidence Today
Sometimes,
the meaning of confidence is overrated but Basically, confidence is a belief
that your knowledge is accurate, that your skills are up to the task, and that
you can grow into and overcome whatever particular challenge you’re presented
with. There is a lot of value in having an appropriate level of confidence in
situations you face. Being under-confident may lead you to shy away from taking
on challenges that fall well within your expertise.
Do you at
some points in your life regret why you did certain things out of fear or threw
in the towel even when you know from Adam that you’re not supposed to do ? I
need you to take a seat and relax with a cup of milk or cookies while listening
keenly as I take you through possible ways you could use to boost your level of
confidence.
Though this article
is aimed at people who are under-confident, either in general or in a
particular area. If your level of confidence is appropriate for situations in
general—or worse yet, if you tend to be overly confident—I don’t advise trying
to make yourself even more confident. Being over-confident is dangerous,
because you may put yourself at social, physical, or financial risk when you
take on something that your knowledge and skills cannot handle.
But there’s
also a risk to being under-confident, which you may well be if you consistently
pass on opportunities in the moment and later find that someone with less
developed skills took on what you did not. When you frequently experience those
pangs of regret over the actions you didn’t take, you are consistently being
under-confident.
In this
episode, I will be talking about three things you can do to help yourself
accept more opportunities tomorrow.
Before we
continue, let me quickly add a disclaimer here. Agreeing to do something isn’t
quite the same as feeling more confident about it, but once you take on a
challenge and succeed at it, that will boost your confidence in the future.
Number
One: ANALYZE WHY YOU SAY NO
When you are
chronically under-confident, your immediate reaction to any opportunity is to automatically
turn it down. When you hear about or read about some new possibility, you often
either avoid thinking about it much at all, because it makes you anxious, or
you start to list all the reasons why you’re not the right person for the job
in your head.
Don’t just
accept this response. Pay attention to it. Take your time to actually think of
it as new opportunity. Doing so might make you nervous, but that’s not a good
reason not to think it through. That is the first step toward actually saying
yes to something that might be right up your alley.
Of course,
this might lead you to find all kinds of reasons to decline. Instead of just
reciting those in your head and moving on, take the time to write them down,
and put the list aside for a few hours. After that, return to the list and read
it over again.
Your
reasons, Are they really good ones?
I read some
lines that best addresses this and this is what it says. The best way to answer
that is to pretend a friend of yours was offered the opportunity you were given
and they told you they were going to turn it down for the reasons you gave
yourself. What advice would you give your friend? You will often find that you
would be more encouraging to someone else than to yourself. If so, you should
say yes instead.
NUMBER TWO: CONSIDER SPECIFIC ALTERNATIVES
Now listen
closely. Many times, when you decline to take on something, you do so because
you are focused on your own limitations and perceptions of your ability. You
assume in an abstract way that someone else is better suited for the task.
Instead,
focus specifically on who that person might be. The task needs to get done, and
someone is going to end up doing it. If you don’t do it, who will? Will that
person really be more qualified than you? Chances are, when you think about it
carefully, you will realize they will not be.
Many
opportunities that are put in your path are there because they do fit within
your skill set (or close enough that you will succeed with effort). When you
say yes more often, you provide yourself with opportunities to succeed at
things that fall inside your capabilities but outside your comfort zone.
NUMBER
THREE: TRAINING WHEELS
If you are
legitimately worried that something is beyond your capabilities, that doesn’t
mean that you should not be involved at all. Instead, consider asking a trusted
colleague or mentor to work on something with you so that you get some
experience working at a level beyond what you have done in the past.
This is
equivalent to the way you learned to ride a bicycle. You didn’t watch other
people ride and know how to do it yourself. You were given a cycle with
training wheels and you learned to ride in a situation where you couldn’t do
much harm to yourself and others, but you could develop your skills.
Similarly, a
great way to gain confidence is to try new things in an environment in which
you have help from others who can shore up any weaknesses you have. You’ll
probably surprise yourself in how much you can accomplish.
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